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Is there a way to manage the shock I am having from the diagnosis of breast cancer a week ago?

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Learning About Breast Cancer almost 7 years
 
  • P C Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 0 Patient
    Hello, I am newly diagnosed with DCIS. I fully understand how you feel right about now. I put this situation into God's hands. I educated myself about my diagnosis and I feel much better than I did at first. Just take it one day at a time. Find people you can confide in too. Stay active and I know this part is hard, but stay busy. I have found when I stay busy I do not think about it as much. My MRI and surgery is next week (just days away) then radiation treatments. The hardest part thus far for me is the waiting. If that is where you are, just hang on. We are all in this journey together. God be with you, P Carter
    almost 7 years Flag
    • Denise Hardnock Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      It sounds like you are exactly where I am. My MRI is next week and the surgeon's appointment will be scheduled next week. The waiting is hard. My faith is the only SURE thing I have and I am blessed. God be with you as well.

      almost 7 years Flag
    • P C Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 0 Patient

      (((Hugs))) to you! We will make it through this! Hey, I have a great video for us to claim! It is called Stronger, by Mandisa. Here's the link! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=emgv-VRtMEU

      Here it is with her singing it...

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      (((Hugs))) to you! We will make it through this! Hey, I have a great video for us to claim! It is called Stronger, by Mandisa. Here's the link! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=emgv-VRtMEU

      Here it is with her singing it live:
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fZQdv1IRVv8&feature=related

      Hugs, P Carter
      <*}}}><

      almost 7 years Flag
    • Denise Hardnock Profile
      anónimo
      Aprendiendo sobre el cáncer de mama

      How very interesting that you posted THAT song. I drove home from work singing it, praising God, and crying. The waves taking me under rings true in this situation. Thank you SO much for your encouragement and you are a very special person P...

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      How very interesting that you posted THAT song. I drove home from work singing it, praising God, and crying. The waves taking me under rings true in this situation. Thank you SO much for your encouragement and you are a very special person P Carter. We WILL make it through this!

      almost 7 years Flag
    • P C Profile
      anónimo
      Stage 0 Paciente

      (((Hugs))) You are too sweet! Thanks for starting this little faith building conversation! We are going to make it through this all the way through. No doubt in my mind! It is scary, but hey we have the Great Physician on our case. He said, I...

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      (((Hugs))) You are too sweet! Thanks for starting this little faith building conversation! We are going to make it through this all the way through. No doubt in my mind! It is scary, but hey we have the Great Physician on our case. He said, I will never leave you! Yep, God's right there - under the rings!!!!

      Today is My MRI at 1:30 my time (Eastern/Arizona Time)! Pray for me Denise and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers too! Thanks for being my new Cancer Fighting Christian Sister!!!! We Will Survive! It's gonna make us STRONGER!

      Hugs, P Carter
      <*}}}><

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    • Denise Hardnock Profile
      anónimo
      Aprendiendo sobre el cáncer de mama

      You will definitely be in my prayers P. May the peace that passes all understanding wash over you today while you are in the MRI. "He has plans for you, not to harm you, but to prosper you." <*}}}><

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    • P C Profile
      anónimo
      Stage 0 Paciente

      Hello!

      Well, my surgery went well! They did a sentinel node biopsy and it was negative. They did the DCIS surgery with wire localization and results were good - the surgeon said he had really good and clear wide margins. I am at home and...

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      Hello!

      Well, my surgery went well! They did a sentinel node biopsy and it was negative. They did the DCIS surgery with wire localization and results were good - the surgeon said he had really good and clear wide margins. I am at home and recovering. The first two days was misery because I was not allowed to bathe and I had to keep this really tight binder around my chest. I was so happy to get to bathe and relax yesterday. I am still wearing the binder and taking meds. They are pretty strong. Today I have not had to take the full dosage, but I plan to take another round of pain meds just before I eat today. On the 6th I have a doctor's appointment to see how he thinks I'm doing and discuss the radiation therapy.

      How are you doing Denise?

      You are in my prayers. Hang on, we are going to beat this!

      Hugs, P Carter
      <*}}}><

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    • Denise Hardnock Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      I am glad things are going well for you P. I am sure you are having discomfort but your positive attitude prevents much complaining. You have been in my thoughts and I have lifted you up in prayer asking that God encircle you with angels to bring...

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      I am glad things are going well for you P. I am sure you are having discomfort but your positive attitude prevents much complaining. You have been in my thoughts and I have lifted you up in prayer asking that God encircle you with angels to bring peace and comfort during this time. Something I learned a few years ago is if you do not take the pain medicine during recovery it can increase inflamation which increases pain. This can become a cycle. I was not able to do the MRI but they said the surgeon will schedule what may be needed when I see him on Tuesday. Get plenty of rest and know he has you in the palm of his hand. God bless.

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    • P C Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 0 Patient

      (((Hugs))) Thank you so much for your prayers and for the info about the meds. I will be sure to take them daily! I do not want any additional pain!

      Denise, you are in my prayers and know that God will be with you through your time coming very...

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      (((Hugs))) Thank you so much for your prayers and for the info about the meds. I will be sure to take them daily! I do not want any additional pain!

      Denise, you are in my prayers and know that God will be with you through your time coming very soon. He is right there!

      Hugs, P Carter
      <*}}}><

      almost 7 years Flag
    • Joanne Uppendahl Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2011

      Wow, P! I am so happy to hear that all went well. I recall
      those first few days, especially not being able to bathe. It is so good that you posted, because others here offer such wonderful, heartfelt support and understand completely. I agree...

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      Wow, P! I am so happy to hear that all went well. I recall
      those first few days, especially not being able to bathe. It is so good that you posted, because others here offer such wonderful, heartfelt support and understand completely. I agree with the great advice already given. My prayers for
      you too! Hope all went well for your check up! Blessings, Joanne

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    • P C Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 0 Patient

      Hi Joanne!
      Thanks for posting! Yep, it has been quite a journey! I think back to the day I received the call about something odd about my mammogram and having to go back for a "larger" view on the right side! Boy oh Boy, I did not like the...

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      Hi Joanne!
      Thanks for posting! Yep, it has been quite a journey! I think back to the day I received the call about something odd about my mammogram and having to go back for a "larger" view on the right side! Boy oh Boy, I did not like the sound of that at all. I think back to my biopsy that afternoon (after the second "larger" view) and somehow, I knew it would not be good news. I think back to the day they called me and told me it was DCIS. That was a rough day. From that point on, I decided I was going to win period! I had people pray for me, I educated myself, and I did what I was told by my doctors. I was very scared, but I told myself I was not going down!! I cried a lot!!! But, praise the Lord above I have made it thus far.

      My sentinal node biopsy was negative and the results after the surgery on the report from the lab said they got it all (the cancer DCIS) and wide clean margins. They say I have positive receptors, so they will be able to treat me with medication that keeps estrogen from feeding any further cancer. Right now, I am waiting to hear from the oncologists for the therapy part of this journey. I will be having radiation and the medication part too.

      Any advice on tamofaxin or the other aromotase inhibitor. Since tamofaxin can cause other cancers (female type) and I have gone through menopause, I am thinking aromotase inhibitor. Not sure which is best. My surgeon said the oncologists are the ones to help me decide on that part, but it would be a good idea to ask other survivors.

      I still have some deep underneath (muscle probably) pain under my armpit from the sentinal node biopsy. It is not bad, just there. I keep my arm up when I sit in a chair. I am okay when I type, so when I go back to work on the 11th, it will be okay. I will take more time off when they start the radiation treatment. I am told it really makes you weak. One thing for sure, I am getting tons of rest. My dear hubby and our son are my nurses and they are taking great care of me!

      So Joanne, thanks for writing. It really helps me to verbalize what has gone on through this. I do hope I can be a help to someone starting this journey. DCIC is mild and very treatable. The more invasive forms are also very treatable these days. We all have worry or fear, but with knowledge, support, and strength we can all get through this no matter what they tell us. We will survive! Just like Mandisa sings, STRONGER!

      Hugs, P Carter
      <*}}}><

      almost 7 years Flag
    • Karrie Cameron Profile
      anonymous
      Patient

      AMEN!!

      almost 7 years Flag
    • P C Profile
      anónimo
      Stage 0 Paciente

      (((Hugs Karrie))) You hang on too! We are all in this together!
      Hugs, P Carter
      <*}}}><

      almost 7 years Flag
    • Denise Hardnock Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Thanks so much ladies! I just started my radiation treatments yesterday and have mixed emotions about them. I am working full time and it does help keep from obsessing. I am also working on an art project I want to do on the images we see from...

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      Thanks so much ladies! I just started my radiation treatments yesterday and have mixed emotions about them. I am working full time and it does help keep from obsessing. I am also working on an art project I want to do on the images we see from this side of Breast Cancer. Blessings to everyone who reads this and Hang On. It is a bumpy ride but we grow so much stronger during this period.

      over 6 years Flag
    • P C Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 0 Patient

      Hi Denise! Good to hear from you! How'd did/is your radiation treatments go? Mine went fine. I had the five day-twice a day external (no mammosite for me--I was a candidate, but my seroma pain made me a bit apprehensive to being opened up for...

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      Hi Denise! Good to hear from you! How'd did/is your radiation treatments go? Mine went fine. I had the five day-twice a day external (no mammosite for me--I was a candidate, but my seroma pain made me a bit apprehensive to being opened up for the mammosite deal) radiation! It was quite a busy week for us! I am now on Tamoxifin meds and seeing the oncologist each month. I still have some pain (not as bad as at first) and have the "zingers" too! Good to hear from you. Hope all went/is going well.

      Hugs, P Carter!

      over 6 years Flag
    • Sue Davis Nicolini Profile
      anónimo
      Aprendiendo sobre el cáncer de mama

      Absolutely...being on a good website like this and getting the first hand experience blogs from all of these beautiful cancer survivors. I was diagnosed with Stage 0 DCIS 2 weeks after I retired. The diagnosis sent shock waves through my...

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      Absolutely...being on a good website like this and getting the first hand experience blogs from all of these beautiful cancer survivors. I was diagnosed with Stage 0 DCIS 2 weeks after I retired. The diagnosis sent shock waves through my system, but after educating myself in what I was up against I relaxed and decided this was not going to keep me down. I decided on a lumpectomy..2 surgeries later my cancer was grade 3 comedo no lymph node involvement. Before I started radiation my husband and I took a month long trip out west. It was a mentally relaxing trip that geared me up for the 6 wks of radiation. I had two great friends that also walked with me through this time - which by the way was a piece of cake. The love that surrounded me during this time with friends, family and the medical staff kept my faith in check. You will get through this cancer with no problem. Just keep your postive attitude.

      over 5 years Flag
  • Charlie Hansen Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I can only tell you what we've been able to do. We cried a lot than figured we have to do this so we have become educated as much as we can. Talk about it to those close to you. For us, our faith plays a major role also. God bless you.
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  • Coco Smith Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Everyone has their own reactions. I did not cry and in fact never have. I just felt it was a waste of time and achieved nothing so I skipped it. I am a non-believer so there was no praying or supplication to the gods to trade something to get me through it. I chose not to tell my family as it was only 7 days from diagnosis to surgery for me and I elected not to put them through the stress. I told two friends who acted as my support people and understood what I wanted was practical assistance - to drive me to and from the hospital, cooked food supplied and someone to hang out my wet washing. They got on with it. The way I managed my shock was to get researching so I understood in detail what was happening, all my options and could ask intelligent questions and/or challenge information being given to me by citing scientific papers. So overall my greatest weapon to stop being overwhelmed was to get up to speed with the terms, studies and so on as quickly as possible and reduce to the barest minimum those who knew about it.
    almost 7 years Flag
    • Joanne Uppendahl Profile
      anónimo
      Sobreviviente desde 2011

      Hi Coco! You did well to ask for practical assistance, the thing I didn't think to do. I think telling family and friends is definitely a choice, and am glad you made one that fit your needs. I needed them to know. As for research, that helped...

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      Hi Coco! You did well to ask for practical assistance, the thing I didn't think to do. I think telling family and friends is definitely a choice, and am glad you made one that fit your needs. I needed them to know. As for research, that helped enormously, and it helped me deal with my shock, too, by gaining all the information I could beforehand. My daughter is skilled at research and we compliled data that gave me a better sense of my options. I did rely on faith to get me through, but again, this is a matter of choice. Best wishes to you and I applaud your proactive methods of coping.

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    • Sue Davis Nicolini Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      I applaude you also Coco...I told very few people only because I didn't want to hear all of the "I am Sorrys"..I felt like this is no big deal, I will get through it without hearing all the sadness from friends and family. And I did, I had a...

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      I applaude you also Coco...I told very few people only because I didn't want to hear all of the "I am Sorrys"..I felt like this is no big deal, I will get through it without hearing all the sadness from friends and family. And I did, I had a couple of friends that met me after most of my radiation treatments and we had fun. Cancer never got me down!

      over 5 years Flag
  • Surf  Momma Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Oh do we all understand! It took me about 6 weeks to not cry everyday. You will go through all the stages of grief. Educate yourself. I had my double mastectomy on 8-15-11. Exercise helped me along with the support if friends. I am able to handle this now because I look at it that I was at least given a chance. You were too. Have hope. You will need strength and courage more than ever now.
    almost 7 years Flag
    • Denise Hardnock Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      The problem is I have always been a loner. This is definitely not a time to stand alone; I am seeing that very quickly. It is difficult to change during these times. My lack of energy is also a huge obstacle. I am not sure if it's the cancer...

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      The problem is I have always been a loner. This is definitely not a time to stand alone; I am seeing that very quickly. It is difficult to change during these times. My lack of energy is also a huge obstacle. I am not sure if it's the cancer because I have not had treatment there is little information on fatigue. My moods are like waves that rise and fall. I look at it like this is just part of my journey. It will only make me stronger. But I am afraid of the treatment and possible limitations in the future.

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    • Karrie Cameron Profile
      anonymous
      Patient

      I hope you can find some comfort here. I just had a huge information session today and you are right! It will be a journey, but we will fight and we will win! Don't fight alone and be loud and be strong. That's how I'm coping!! We can do this!!

      almost 7 years Flag
    • Denise Hardnock Profile
      anónimo
      Aprendiendo sobre el cáncer de mama

      Thank you Karrie. We can!

      almost 7 years Flag
    • Denise Hardnock Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Be loud and be strong. I love that.

      over 6 years Flag
  • Karrie Cameron Profile
    anonymous
    Patient
    I have recently been diagnosed with DC and my mastectomy is scheduled for November 3. I actually want it moved up closer so I can get on with the healing! I believe that I was meant to be someone else's strength and before that happens...you have to go through it yourself. I will shout out, not hide. I will embrace and BELIEVE!
    almost 7 years Flag
    • Denise Hardnock Profile
      anónimo
      Aprendiendo sobre el cáncer de mama

      Thank you so much. I am stubborn, I work on things until they're fixed, and I believe I am experiencing it for the same reasons. You're in my prayers as well.

      almost 7 years Flag
    • Denise Hardnock Profile
      anónimo
      Aprendiendo sobre el cáncer de mama

      About now you will be hurting and healing Karrie. We are thinking about you and support you girlfriend. Blessings to you.

      over 6 years Flag
    • Karrie Cameron Profile
      anónimo
      Paciente

      Thank you, Denise! Yes, I've had my surgery and am healing great! Chemo starts on Nov 28th. Hope you are doing well!!

      over 6 years Flag
  • Annabelle Domingo Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Live FACT over fear, cry when you feel like it, recoup then go forward. I am 9 months post-Cancer treatments. Surround yourself w/a strong network of family
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  • Cathy Wadkins Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Dear Isabel, I know exactally what you are saying because I called this woman repeated and I had to drag anything and everything out of this woman, there is questions and you need to be assured it will be alright and if I can answer I will try
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  • Denise Hardnock Profile
    anónimo
    Aprendiendo sobre el cáncer de mama
    Your encouragement, from all of you, gives me more strength and comfort. Thanks!
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  • Isabel Souchet Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2010
    Important to talk to other breast cancer pts n survivors. It is scary not to know what to expect.
    almost 7 years Comment Flag
  • Cathy Wadkins Profile
    anónimo
    Aprendiendo sobre el cáncer de mama
    Dear anonymous, You take this walk and trust I'n god because he will not let you down. My mother had alltimers and damencha and I wanted my mom so bad, but you walk this walk so you can be gods testimony, you will be just find.
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  • Kathy M Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I agree with everyone...educate yourself, keep yourself busy, and find a good support system. There are many online forums similar to this where survivors talk to each other. You can also look for support groups in your area. Talking to other women you have gone through this or who are going through it has been helping me the most.
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  • Ruth W Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since
    I was just diagnosed on 8/13/14. Last night I had a major melt down. I was crying like a baby. I don't want to do this, I just had surgery in may for a hernia and now I have to be cut on again. I am still grieving the lost of my sister who was taken from us in October 2014 at the hands of her estranged husband, so I am not really as strong as I usually am. Everyone feels since I have God I should be okay, Well, yes I have Him and I am strong in faith, but I am human. So, if i feel like crying that is exactly what I'm going to do. MRI tomorrow which I don't want to do and I have a host of doctors I must see in the next coming weeks. Surgery is not scheduled to October due to not being able to see the cardiologist til 9/29. Its a lot, but I guess we have to hang in there and fight.
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  • Aleeza Chaudhry Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I want you to know that crying and frustration is all part of the package. But it's important not to lose sight of who you're fighting for - yourself, your family, your friends. I know it's a huge burden to not act like it hurts you to know that you've been diagnosed, especially since so many of us think that we won't ever be in a situation like this. But you can cry and be upset. You are allowed to be afraid. God is going to put you in situations you will never expect but remember that the point is to always come out a stronger person. Don't let the shock get in the way of you and your future. You are a fighter and more importantly a winner :) I can already tell
    almost 5 years Comment Flag
  • Isabel Souchet Profile
    anónimo
    Sobreviviente desde 2010
    When I was dx'd i really was in shock, scared, frightened and then I just went get this done mode. I think it so importantn
    almost 7 years Comment Flag

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