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Reconstruction or not. Maybe a nice tattoo instead, to celebrate the scar. Got until at least the fall to decide. Thoughts?

leslie adkins Profile
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anonymous

Learning About Breast Cancer over 7 years
 
  • Roberta S Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 2B Patient
    I think it depends on your age and preference. I'm 35 and feel I need to bc I'm young with a you g husband and 3 girls. Just want my life to seem normal again. However if I was older I prob wouldn't even care. Good luck :)
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  • André Roberts Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 1 Patient
    Leslie you do what ever is best for you. For myself, I am not a tattoo person (my husband has them), but when I looked at my scars for the first time, they were my 'tattoos' that say "fight with all you have". I do like Sharon's idea of being comical tho. If I were to do it, I would go that route. Prayers to you.
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    • André Roberts Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 1 Patient

      Oops, I did have reconstruction. Expanders switched out for saline implants.

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  • Marianne R. Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2011
    you don't even have to decide in the fall. I know 1 women who waited 5 years.
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  • leslie adkins Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    If I was much younger, the idea of not getting reconstruction wouldn't enter my mind. Of course I'd probably go for it. At 52, I don't care. The only thing I might think about, is getting the area cleaned up a bit. Not doing anything for awhile. Everything is still too fresh. Start radiation mar 5.
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  • Sharon Danielson Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2007
    Leslie, I did not get reconstruction but thought a comical tattoo of a zipper would be appropriate. I am a middle-aged old lady (soon to be 65) and always try to look at life with a dose of humor. You can google breast cancer tattoo's and probably find some that are comical or some that are works of art. I do remember a young woman's photograph of her chest, post dual-mastectomy and I thought I was looking at a wall of climbing roses. Most beautiful. Take care, Sharon
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  • Roz Potenza Profile
    anonymous
    Patient
    I'm 52 and I love my boobs. There. I said it. Of course I spent 45 years nearly flat chested so... I am looking at tattoos for my radiation dots now. Maybe little yin and yang symbols?
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    • André Roberts Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 1 Patient

      Roz I'm with you, I love my 'new' boobs! Don't miss the old ones at all. They were large, deflated & saggy. Now I'm large, firm & perky! Not once do I think of them as not real & either does my husband :)

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    • anonymous Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 1 Patient

      I looked at the pictures of my old boobs and realized how ugly they were! Even with the expanders still in, I feel like they look better now.

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    • Roz Potenza Profile
      anonymous
      Patient

      It really is amazing how you can get lemonade out of these cancer lemons. Ha. My boobs are spectacular compared to my old mighty tiny ones. And yes, I agree... they are totally real and totally mine. I earned these babies. ;)

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  • anonymous Profile
    anonymous
    Stage 1 Patient
    When I was diagnosed my first instinct was not to have reconstruction. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that I did want it. I'm really glad I made that choice. I was only 38 at diagnosis and lots of the clothing styles I wear wouldn't look right without reconstruction. Also, I live in Florida so I have to be able to wear a bathing suit. I think it helped me personally in my recovery to have lumps where my breasts used to be. When I'm wearing my wig and with my expanders I feel almost back to normal. Having said that, though, it's a very individual choice and there's no wrong answer. Good luck to you!
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  • leslie adkins Profile
    anonymous
    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Well, I'm 52. I walk around my house in the woods, letting my flab hang out. Really do my best to not care at all what other folks think. Still trying to figure out why people care about the term " normal". Will I wear a fake when I go out? Sure, but that' s just so I don't have to answer stupid questions from stupid rude folks.
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    • Roberta S Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 2B Patient

      When I say normal i mean as in not fighting cancer. I have 3 girls (6, 12 and 14). I'm a young mom. I'm trying to live normal as if I don't have cancer, or no boobs, or about to get a hysterectomy, or being tired and not feeling good. That all...

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      When I say normal i mean as in not fighting cancer. I have 3 girls (6, 12 and 14). I'm a young mom. I'm trying to live normal as if I don't have cancer, or no boobs, or about to get a hysterectomy, or being tired and not feeling good. That all seems pretty abnormal to me but maybe not others. I'm trying to be strong for them so yes I want them to feel "normal" as well. Just wanted to explain myself.

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    • anonymous Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 1 Patient

      Funny, I used the word "normal" too. I guess this is our new normal!

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  • Sharon Danielson Profile
    anonymous
    Survivor since 2007
    Leslie, I hear ya sister! I also live in-the-woods and we all have a --new normal--. We have lost a body part, had a amputation, if you will. I truly did not want to go through the fuss and bother of more surgery so having a scar and a flat spot on my chest it ok with me. Do I wear a fake boob, (?) yes, I do only because I feel better that way. We are all individuals, and lots of younger women want to have reconstruction. That is just their reality and their sense and definition of -normal-. None of will ever return to what we were born with, we are what we are right now. It is our personal normal. I am much closer to your way of thinking. I don't like around a bunch of people who give a rip about the flat side of my chest. (and my horses DON'T care). I do what feels right for me and you can too. It is lousy what we have had to go through but this is our reality, and now is ours to choose. If I were the age of some of the women on this board, my decision might be different. My boobs were never something that I flaunted because they were so dang small. It is like I have been living with a flat chest most of my life so it's like there is very little change. It's one of those things that if you feel weird without cleavage and a boob, get reconstruction. If not, well that's great too. One thing... we are all sisters here, we all share a rather horrendous experience and we are going to fight like crazy to beat this nasty foe. Who cares what we choose to do after we have kicked cancer to the curb? You go girl! Take care, Sharon
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