Survivor since 2007
I hear ya sister! I also live in-the-woods and we all have a --new normal--. We have lost a body part, had a amputation, if you will. I truly did not want to go through the fuss and bother of more surgery so having a scar and a flat spot on my chest it ok with me. Do I wear a fake boob, (?) yes, I do only because I feel better that way. We are all individuals, and lots of younger women want to have reconstruction. That is just their reality and their sense and definition of -normal-. None of will ever return to what we were born with, we are what we are right now. It is our personal normal. I am much closer to your way of thinking. I don't like around a bunch of people who give a rip about the flat side of my chest. (and my horses DON'T care). I do what feels right for me and you can too. It is lousy what we have had to go through but this is our reality, and now is ours to choose.
If I were the age of some of the women on this board, my decision might be different. My boobs were never something that I flaunted because they were so dang small. It is like I have been living with a flat chest most of my life so it's like there is very little change. It's one of those things that if you feel weird without cleavage and a boob, get reconstruction. If not, well that's great too. One thing... we are all sisters here, we all share a rather horrendous experience and we are going to fight like crazy to beat this nasty foe. Who cares what we choose to do after we have kicked cancer to the curb? You go girl!
Take care, Sharon