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How do I go about telling someone, that I'm newly dating, that I was getting breast cancer treatment?

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  • Brooke Lancaster Profile
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    Stage 2A 病人
    I'm curious on this question too. I am 33 and single. I would love to be able to date again, but I am afraid to talk about my Breast Cancer with a future suitor. I think with me it's a physical insecurity I'm going thru right now. I'm almost done with chemo, so I keep telling myself once I'm done with treatment and dell like myself again. For you, wait to talk about it for when you feel the most comfortable. I'm sure he will be there for you thru this time. What treatment are you going thru at this time? Best wishes. Brooke
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    • Ali S Profile
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      乳癌幸存者从 2011

      Hi Brooke-I'm 32 and maybe a couple months ahead of you in treatment. Had chemo June-September, then lumpectomy and sentinel node (only one taken out) and my surgeon says I'm "cancer free" now. Radiation starts dec 14 just in case. Mine was...

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      Hi Brooke-I'm 32 and maybe a couple months ahead of you in treatment. Had chemo June-September, then lumpectomy and sentinel node (only one taken out) and my surgeon says I'm "cancer free" now. Radiation starts dec 14 just in case. Mine was stage I triple negative. How about you?

      Ive met ppl out when I have my wig on, but also go around with a hat or scarf and lately my hair!! (barely coming in). Ive been on match.com before and wonder about telling ppl first or see if there's interest and wear a wig ? Also want to be honest. Going out on a first date with someone next week...not sure what I'll do. I feel like I should just tell him first and see what happens

      Best of luck to you!
      Ali

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    • Brooke Lancaster Profile
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      Hi Ali. I was diagnosed in Aug and I have one more chemo left. We have very similar stories and age. I had stage 2a, triple negative. No lymph node involvement. I will be starting radiation in Jan. I too meet tons of guys with my wig on too, but I...

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      Hi Ali. I was diagnosed in Aug and I have one more chemo left. We have very similar stories and age. I had stage 2a, triple negative. No lymph node involvement. I will be starting radiation in Jan. I too meet tons of guys with my wig on too, but I feel like once that wig comes off a whole other story. I just don't feel like myself. I suggest hey go on that date, rock the wig, and see what happens. See if u even like him and maybe tell him after a few dates or when that serious talk arrives. Some guys aren't strong enough to deal with this and if that's the case we don't need em. At least u are done with treatment do this is now your past. I prob won't start dating until I'm done with chemo, radiation, and start to grow hair. I want to be able to tell any guy this is all behind me. Good Luck to you also, stay in touch on here. We have a sisterhood now.

      Brooke

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    • Ali S Profile
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      乳癌幸存者从 2011

      Hi Brooke, best of luck with your treatments...I just started radiation and it's not that bad so far. Annoying to go everyday though! I hear what you're saying about dating once it's all over. I never ended up going out with the guy bc we...

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      Hi Brooke, best of luck with your treatments...I just started radiation and it's not that bad so far. Annoying to go everyday though! I hear what you're saying about dating once it's all over. I never ended up going out with the guy bc we couldnt find a time, so probably for the best. My hair is coming in, but I feel like I look like a military person--others tell me it looks good, but I'm still insecure even though I don't wear the wig anymore.

      Merry Christmas
      Ali

      over 7 years Flag

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