- Why do I have breast cancer? - What could I have done differently? There are some questions that cannot be answered; even so, they are not unreasonable questions to...
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Learning About Breast CancerTell them how much you love them! Be supportive and encouraging!
Comment 10By educating yourself about breast cancer, you will be better equipped to understand what your loved one is going through. Learn more about breast cancer here: http://beyondtheshock.com/learn.
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Learning About Breast CancerI have a 10 year old and year old. I just told both kids one month ago. I told them when I knew I would not be hysterical about it. It is all in your delivery. My kids have been fine.
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Be strong, but be honest. Most experts advise that you talk to your child about the cancer as soon as you are able to manage your own emotions. You do not have to hide your emotions, but be sure to wait until you can focus on the needs of your children and not your own.
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Nikol,
Be strong, but be honest. Most experts advise that you talk to your child about the cancer as soon as you are able to manage your own emotions. You do not have to hide your emotions, but be sure to wait until you can focus on the needs of your children and not your own.
It might also be helpful to come up with an outline of topics that you want to cover, because your talk with your daughter will likely become emotional and you may forget what you wanted to say.
Here is a link to a short article in Parents that may be helpful: http://www.parents.com/parenting/moms/healthy-mom/6-ways-to-tell-your-kids-about-breast-cancer/
Also, remember that you are not alone. Not too long ago, on this site, someone else asked the question "How do I tell my kids". Click on this question and you can see some suggestions from women who have also had to do this: http://beyondtheshock.com/questions/561
I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis, but am wishing you the best. Stay strong and keep hope!
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Learning About Breast CancerMake sure you have plenty of shirts or tops that are easy to get in out of. Arrange a schedule for friends to bring meals for a couple weeks. Tell people you'll need to rest the first few days home from the hospital and they can visit after that. Get someone to help clean your house. Shave...
Make sure you have plenty of shirts or tops that are easy to get in out of. Arrange a schedule for friends to bring meals for a couple weeks. Tell people you'll need to rest the first few days home from the hospital and they can visit after that. Get someone to help clean your house. Shave your legs and paint your toenails! These are things I've learned over the past year since I had my double mast and other surgeries. Best of luck you!
Prayer....
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Learning About Breast CancerPeople die from car crashes, cancer, or even a common cold (depending on their health). The reason people are so positive is because YOU are NOT going to die from this. You have to find the fight inside you & use the love & support around you to kick some cancer ass. Without a positive attitude,...
People die from car crashes, cancer, or even a common cold (depending on their health). The reason people are so positive is because YOU are NOT going to die from this. You have to find the fight inside you & use the love & support around you to kick some cancer ass. Without a positive attitude, the ass kicking is not as easy. Cancer & chemo may take your hair, possibly your toenails, & likely your breasts...but it doesn't have to take your life. You've got cancer...it doesn't have you.
It's scary, I realize. And you have every right to go through phases of sadness or anger or whatever else you feel. But in the end, it comes down to a battle. And cancer is a tricky little bugger, but this is a battle you will win! If ever you need support or just want to vent, know that people like me are here for you, too. Sending love your way!
I was told in 2003 that I had stage 3 Breast Cancer. Ten years later by the grace of God, i'm still here and doing great.
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Learning About Breast CancerYou can also make a donation to nbcf - http://nbcf.org/donate - there are several great foundations out there trying to help educate women on breast cancer.
Comment 2Hi. You can contact The American Cancer Society to make a donation or to find out about local events in your area for fundraising.
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Stage 1 PatientHi Nabega. You post touched my heart! I do not have breast cancer but I am supporting a woman that does and I can tell you this...it is very important to work with your doctors, eat right, stay positive and know that you are a FIGHTER. It is important to keep your body, mind and soul strong for...
Hi Nabega. You post touched my heart! I do not have breast cancer but I am supporting a woman that does and I can tell you this...it is very important to work with your doctors, eat right, stay positive and know that you are a FIGHTER. It is important to keep your body, mind and soul strong for this battle but you can win it! Be strong my sister! :)
I was 19 the first time I was diagnosed. It's hard especially when you're young. Treat it aggressively. Hopefully you caught it early.
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My biggest hurdle with chemotherapy was eating. Over the course of 6 cycles, I lost 30 lbs. I had no appetite and most food tasted horrible, even water. When I found something I could eat I stocked up on it because I knew I had to force down anything i could to stay healthy. For me, that was...
My biggest hurdle with chemotherapy was eating. Over the course of 6 cycles, I lost 30 lbs. I had no appetite and most food tasted horrible, even water. When I found something I could eat I stocked up on it because I knew I had to force down anything i could to stay healthy. For me, that was creamed based soup such as chowders, bisques, and squash/pumpkin soup. Crackers and toast at times also tasted ok. Normally I am a coffee/chocolate lover. Both these made me sick. I found, especially as chemotherapy progressed, it became more difficult to eat. I could not prepare food or be around when my family was eating as the smell of it upset my stomach. If your mom can find just anything that she can "stomach" then that will help her. Just understand it is common and allow your mom time to experiment with foods that she get down.
WHEN I WENT THRU CHEMO, NOTHING SMELT GOOD OR TASTED GOOD. I TOLD MY DR. AND HE PRESCIBED ME ,I WISH I REMEBER THE NAME, BUT IT WAS A MILKY WHITE LIQUID, YES IT HAD A STEIROD IN IT ,BUT I GAINED 30LBS........... THE THING THAT GOT ME THRU WAS ROAST BEEF FROM THE DELI AT YOUR STORE!!!!! MY DR....
WHEN I WENT THRU CHEMO, NOTHING SMELT GOOD OR TASTED GOOD. I TOLD MY DR. AND HE PRESCIBED ME ,I WISH I REMEBER THE NAME, BUT IT WAS A MILKY WHITE LIQUID, YES IT HAD A STEIROD IN IT ,BUT I GAINED 30LBS........... THE THING THAT GOT ME THRU WAS ROAST BEEF FROM THE DELI AT YOUR STORE!!!!! MY DR. SAID TO EAT ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING AND WORRY ABOUT YOUR FIGURE LATER..... GOOD LUCK MY SISTER ...........
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Learning About Breast CancerHow to help? One thing about breast cancer is that it can be a long process between surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. I know when I was going through treatment, I didn't want help either and I didn't want people hovering over me because I was determined not to be a patient. However people...
How to help? One thing about breast cancer is that it can be a long process between surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. I know when I was going through treatment, I didn't want help either and I didn't want people hovering over me because I was determined not to be a patient. However people comforted me in many ways. My sisters who lived out of town, checked in with me weekly by phone or email, they sent care packages during the weeks I had chemotherapy with books, warm fuzzy socks, and sometimes sent flowers. My friends were determined to cook for me, but I was dreading being bombarded with visitors when I felt miserable. So I placed a cooler outside my door and they all took turns delivering food for my family when I could not function. One place I looked forward to having visitors was the chemotherapy room because I needed to sit there for a few hours and I was usually feeling quite well on those days. Some friends and family also drove me to radiation as it was an hours drive away. And then there were cards and notes in the mail that to this day I still read as I look back on how people helped me when I never wanted help, but that is what got me through the most difficult time in my life. I am thankful that so many people found a way to care. My thoughts are with you and your sister- in-law and I know you will find your own way to help her. Take care!
I agree with all of the above. Never underestimate the power of prayer. I recently experienced a very bad cancer scare, and felt comforted through the prayers of others.
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